I initially said I will not say a word about the marriage of Yusuf M. Buhari and Zahra N. Bayero. My main reason being that I do not see any reason for all the brouhaha surrounding the nikah ceremonies.
Stop and take a closer look at how often such a marriage occurs in the lives of each of us today? How many times have the son of a sitting President ever married a Princess of a traditional monarch in our country? This we all must agree is very rare, and seldom happens amidst us.
So let everyone relax plaease and allow the pomps and grandeur of the celebrations come with it’s glitters and noisily or quietly go. It’s an opportunity and as the famous Hausa adage goes “Let whoever gets sunshine, spread out his laundry to dry”. We should therefore excuse them to take advantage of their opportunities.
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You see, I swear by God that such a fiesta might never happen as such again. For as we all know with so many things in life, even if the opportunity should present itself again, a journey might take one away, ill health could ground another and even death can end up a spoiler for it to occur to some of us.
Talks like it’s the Who is who of our nation, arriving in over 100 private jets both owned as well as hired attended the nuptial tieing ceremony. It was also the Creame-la-creame of society ladies that graced the dinner party, which was a Strictly-on-Invitation gathering. Among the souvinier items given out to some selected invitees at the event was an iPhone 12 worth a whooping #850k! All these are banters that are part of the vaniteous servings.
It is rumored that about 100 event planners were hired to organize the once in a lifetime nostalgic ceremony, with lots of music, dances, videos, photoshoots, games and other entertainment stuffs happening before, during and even after the wedding activities.
And now, all that is done and over with. Calm must return after every storm.
Personally, what I didn’t like about the whole ceremony was how the groom and his bride conducted themselves in ways that were against Islamic laid down injunctions and procedures. For example, the showing off of the bride’s adornments to the world, displaying herself in revealing, tight fitting clothes and wearing wedding dresses akin to non-Muslims. Also allowing the mixing of men and women at certain venues of the event and stuffs like that.
Anyway, thereafter what usually happens? Nothing except what every experienced family man would know. Marital life and its various challenges, where first and foremost the true characters of both the bride and groom, whether good or bad must essentially manifest. After a few months conception and child birth will naturally follow.
Then facial beauty, youthfulness and fashionable appearances will start to disappear after a while. What follows closely is of course reality i.e. child rearing, growth, weight gain, loss of shape, self-maintenance and fighting off old age.
All efforts made to show the world that there has never been a wedding as grandeous as this will soon become tales of the ancient, an even non-refered to part of stories of the past. Anything that has been done during these celebrations to surpass all records of excitements set by other previous elite weddings would eventually becomes so old-fashioned and archaic, some people would be ashamed to be associated with it, though it might be of what is cherished of vanity at this time.
Time and era leaves nothing intact, but must of essence humble and subdue it.
Eventually patience and use of common sense will essentially be the basic ingredients required for the longevity of this love marriage, so lavishly advertised to the world via social media. Personally, I sincerely wish them well.
And truth be told, they have impressed me much. If not for anything, for the path of honor and glory they have chosen to trek, which is marriage, rather than seek to look for cheap, illicit fun or sinful immorality.
And what more is more endearing to me about them? They have opted to do this at the right time in their lives and that is, at the peak of their youthfulness. If they get lucky to get it right and end up understanding each other very well, they might enjoy this young and vibrant discovery adventure for long a while to come, if not for life. Just like I was fortunate to.
As for those advocating that young people should delay getting married until they set up life as comfortable as they want it to be, my question here is; what guarantee do they have that if they bet on that gamble of getting married late, when they are way past their prime, they will get the kind of husbands or wives they so desperately dream of?
Remember, our life is like the day that begins to end when the sun inclines from its zenith. Thereby getting set to set in the west, the graveyard of our days. Is that when any wise one would want to spread out on sheets to enjoy the sunshine?
However, in this marriage of love, the groom Yusuf and his bride Zarah are teaching young people a very important lesson. Let whoever is willing to take heed do, and those who choose to be reckless about time can also so do, thus continue to live life on the hard lane of frustration and regrets. For of a surety they will come to learn this crucial lesson the only way. ????
To the Bride and Groom, may Allaah Azza wa Jallah Bless your marriage. Go ahead and seek forgiveness of Allaah that He may forgive you all your sins and mistakes, and ours too. May He furnish you both with all the blessings associated with this choice you have made.
May Allah (SWT) bring forth into your new home tiny blessed footsteps that will grow to become the coolness of your eyes. May your twain hearts intertwine, be your humble abode and by extension fill your most trusted and secured comfort zone with bliss. Amin thumma amin ????????
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